HER SECRET NO. 15

 

You know what, she is ungrateful, to herself, her family, her friends everyone, maybe that’s one more reason she is alone forever.

Well let me tell you one difference, the difference lies in the meaning of being ungrateful.

One category of people lies where they are grateful for nothing, and the other is situations make them ungrateful not because they don’t have that feeling at all but because they are tired of being one of those, who did everything that they can for the sake of others happiness, when she started to think of herself, she became ungrateful.

You tell me how bad is it to think for oneself?

Is it really that bad, that others categorise her to be ungrateful?

I don’t understand why everyone has become self-centric, just like they think of themselves, the same way when she thought of living on her own, she became bad. I mean how can that even be fair?

Do they ever think like when she used to live for others how badly she just wanted one thing, and that one thing used to be the happiness of all those who were accusing her of being mean, no one appreciated her or thanked her at that very point in time.

Sometimes she gets confused, is she the bad one or vice versa?

Let's take one example, say there are two friends like really best friends who studied together, and planned things for the future together and then there is a time comes when one of them has to shift somewhere else, still the one who stayed back is the same with no difference in her nature or the way she cared, but the one who moved barely thinks of her and happy in her world with new friends and group, she never thought of her friend whom she left behind for her present happiness, then what do you say will she be answerable to the other, definitely no.

It's as simple as that, in search of happiness we often forget bout others. So yes, that is the reason why in the beginning I stated she is mean.

Once I heard “Sometimes we have to make others sad if we want to make ourselves happy.”

And I truly feel like this line is somewhat true, for how long you will keep looking for others? 

There comes a time when you should make yourself a priority of your own.

 And, once you have reached that milestone in your life where you live for yourself, then my dear you have successfully unlocked the door of happiness.

You might often think how can I come up with such thoughts, it’s the lessons that I learn every day in my dark room, that is why I feel most comfortable in my dark room.

No one to judge me, no one to question me, no one to stop me.

Just a happy room with a lot of lessons.

A place where she loves to be herself, without being objectified or questioned for whatever she does.

Her dark room is her happy place.